The following wedding planning post was written by Debbie Ley, co-founder of Something New for I Do.
This is hard ladies. When you were watching your baby girl grow up and go through all those big life changes, you knew you would be there by her side helping her plan her wedding. Naturally she would want her mom right there with her, to share in all the joy. After all, that is our rightful payback, after all those late night sessions hearing about the jerk boyfriends and mean girls in high school.
Alas, it just isn’t so. I vowed never to be that mom who takes over wedding planning on her daughter’s day! My lovely daughters, 6 years apart, were engaged and married within a year. Six years separate them, and they became engaged, planned weddings and were married within 12 months.
Mothers of the bride, it’s not your day
You would think there would be too much wedding planning to do to really get too involved in all the various stages, but my youngest (Kristen Ley Green) and I work together as many of you know. I had this on lock! We were going to plan the wedding of the year.
I guess I forgot the inspiring wedding planning blog she wrote on “If your man were to plan” pointing out it is HIS wedding too. Funny, no mention of me in that blog. I think you can see where this is going. Once I realized I was my mom after all and that they really did have a beautiful inspiration for THEIR wedding, I could relax and help bring their wedding vision to life.
Kristen and Josh had their church ceremony that was so important to them, followed by a magical reception on a 300 acre private farm. Picture perfect! Logistics were difficult, but that is what they wanted and it worked.
I learned a few lessons with wedding #1 and Meredith and Trent’s amazingly happy and stunning wedding #2 was a piece of cake! A beautiful, delicious, love-studded piece of cake.